A lot of creamy chocolates, fragrant flowers and romantic dinners will be purchased or exchanged today.
That’s great if you’re in love with someone. The intent of (St.) Valentine’s Day originated with a note from Valentine, written on the night before he was to be executed. It was written to his beloved and signed, “From your Valentine”.
If you don’t have a Valentine to write to you, today may not be a good day. There’s a lot of pressure and expectation placed on February 14th. If I have it right, the expectation is that we, the male of the species, are expected to dig deep in our emotions and devise a perfect plan to demonstrate our love. And it must be executed with extreme precision. Don’t make a reservation for French food if she hates it. And don’t buy flowers that will make her cry with sadness or sneeze from allergic reaction.
But an even worse expectation is that everyone should have a Valentine. There were a couple of episodes, and one movie, when the ladies from the Sex In The City franchise dreaded the approaching February 14th. They usually planned ways to celebrate their friendship.
It mirrors what some of society thinks – NO ONE wants to be or should be ALONE on Valentine’s Day. It basically says that something must be wrong with you if you’re not in a relationship – on Valentine’s Day or any day.
I know. I have a poor history with Valentine’s Day. But it’s different for us guys. Valentine’s Day is sort of like the wedding day for guys – it’s all about the ladies. The only dread most men have is the pressure to meet the expectation.
If you are one of those people who doesn’t have someone special today, like me, it’s okay. It’s just one day that we’ve over-emphasized, commercialized and trivialized that emotion we call LOVE.
Shouldn’t we all show love everyday in our actions and words? And how can you place a monetary or material value on love? Does it really matter the size of the bouquet or the cost of the meal?
And who says Valentine’s Day is exclusive to lovers? Statistics show that a large majority of cards are given to teachers by elementary school children. If you check your card section, there are now cards for parents, friends, co-workers, etc.
Love is not just something to be shared with someone you’re intimate with. There are at least 3 main types of love:
- EROS – the origin of the word erotic. This is the romantic or passionate love people desire.
- PHILOS – a friendship-based love with a shared, give & take feel
- AGAPE – unconditional love
Who do you love today? If you don’t share an “eros” based love,
- Love God (creator) – give of yourself today to someone else who may need to feel love
- Love yourself – take sometime for yourself. Take care of your health or treat yourself
- Love your children
- Love your parents
- Love your siblings
- Love your best friend
- Love your mentor
- Love your enemy
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
For you see, each day I love you more
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.
Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart. ~Author Unknown