December 14th, 2010 – Putting A Check Mark By Your Name

Everyone has them around this time of year. 


Kids have their lists for Santa.  And you probably have one with the names of relatives, teachers, co-workers, etc.  Some of us have a list of things to get at the grocery store for dinner on Christmas day.  Our goal is to put a check mark by everything or everyone on the list.  There’s a sense of accomplishment from completing your list.

I want you to start creating another list.  At the top, I want you to write “Project (your name) for 2011”.  And this is probably the most important list you will create over the next few months. 

We always create lists of things to do.  And I sometimes have my clients create a list of the people and things that are important to them.  A majority of clients either put themselves towards the bottom of the list…or not at all. 

Instead of putting you and your needs, dreams, desires ON a list, I want YOU to BE the list!


First, I’d like you to focus on the 3 elements that make YOU who YOU are:

  1. Body
  2. Mind
  3. Spirit

Between now and January 1st, think about one facet in each area to focus on next year.  Three steps you will take in 2011 to improve your health, to enlighten your mind or to reach your next level in spirituality.  You will also need to define how, when, where, etc. but this is just the foundation.  Remember to use your S.M.A.R.T. goals

This first section of your project list focuses on you.  The next section is focused on the world around you.

This section will be divided into PEOPLE, PLACES, and THINGS.


  1. The first person or group of people I want you to list deals with commitment.  List the name or names that you want to commit to in 2011.  It can be a monthly lunch with your best friend.  Or a one hour meeting with your mentor.  It can also be an hour devoted each week to each of your children.  And don’t forget date night with your spouse.  But that time should be a  commitment to strengthening these relationships.
  2. The second name is designed to challenge you.  This person is the one you need to reconnect with.  This is the person you have not spoken to in a while because of a disagreement.  This may be the person who’s in your work or social circle that you don’t quite get along with.  Whoever this person is, the goal is to purge yourself of any ill will or feelings you have about this person or situation.  Sometimes we can’t move forward because the past is holding us prisoner.  And people assume or declare not speaking to or avoiding someone = no relationship at all.  NEWS FLASH:  a relationship of avoidance is STILL  a relationship.  It’s a negative or unhealthy relationship.  The best way to make it positive is to address it instead of avoiding it.  It doesn’t mean that everyone walks away holding hands.  It just means both parties decide to RESPECT each other as people, even if it is from afar.
  3. The person listed second on your list may also become number three.  Number 3 is the person you may need to distance yourself from.  As you work on PROJECT YOU, it’s important you surround yourself with supportive situations and people.  If there is someone who challenges you each time they enter your world, you may need to spend less time with them.  As stated above, still respect and love them but with less contact.  Or limit your conversations with this person, if life insists that you are connected to this person.  The other thing to think about is this – perhaps this person challenges you because God is using this “spirit” to work out something in YOU.  Christian author and speaker Joyce Meyer tells the story of someone in her office who irritated her.  She questioned God as to why he hadn’t “fixed” her employee yet.  Joyce spiritually came to the realization God would fix her employee…once He was done using the employee to fix HER.  In other words, God may be challenging your patience with someone who tests that area.  Once God helps you become a better person, the spirit will move along on its own because impatience is no longer an issue for you.  Let your brain marinate in THAT for a day or so. 


  1. I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO GO TO:  Where is the place you’ve always wanted to go but never took the time to do it?  It could be a restaurant, a day trip, a weekend getaway.  It should be a destination you can afford time-wise, money-wise and should be close geographically. 
  2. REWIND:  This is the place that you’ve always wanted to go BACK to for a return visit.  It holds a special place in your heart…or it left a good taste in your mouth!  This is designed to allow you to experience that feeling again…and maybe again and again.
  3. PLUS ONE:  This is actually number one or two with a twist.  Just take someone with you.  The goal is experiencing someplace new with someone special or introducing that person to something you’ve already enjoyed. 

THINGS – What are three things you can do to help someone in need?  If you are like me, you have all the resources at hand to help yourself be a better person.  Some people don’t have a lot of money, or a car, or decent clothes.  How can you help someone else?

  1. Give to charity
  2. Volunteer your time to a passionate cause
  3. Get rid of old things in your house and donate to Big Brothers and Sisters, Salvation Army or any other organization
  4. Give blood each month
  5. Volunteer at your children’s school each month
  6. Read to someone who’s bedridden or in a nursing home
  7. Offer to take an elderly person to the store every week.
  8. Host a foreign exchange student
  9. Open your home on 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Christmas to someone (co-worker, church member, neighbor) who is unable to return home to family.
  10. Work with your neighbors each month to keep your neighborhood clean.

Goals are a lot of work.  People don’t reach them because they lack a game plan.  Or they lack the motivation.  Or they may also need support or assistance.  If you need help, contact me for a complimentary session to determine if and how I can assist you.  We can discuss fees for a month, 3 months or a whole year.

By January 1st, the foundation for PROJECT YOU for 2011 should already be in place.  2011 is the year of you!




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