The other day, I had lunch with my friends Monica and Kenny at our favorite place – Genghis Khan Mongolian Grill. Over our bowls of soup and stir-fried meats and veggies, we discussed politics, social injustice, and school reform. We had a great time away from work, kids and other obligations.
I am so thankful for this age in life. Me and so many of my friends are at the age where we can have interesting, meaningful, intellectual and open discussions about all aspects of life. But I think it takes education, enlightenment and contemplation to get to that point.
Mind you, I’m not saying a Ph.D is necessary to have a one-on-one conversation. It is necessary that you educate yourself. In 2008, we saw something very amazing happen in politics. A lot of young adults got involved in the Presidential election. They educated themselves on the issues. They studied the backgrounds of the candidates. They read the newspapers, magazines and blogs. They talked in study halls, dorm rooms, and chat rooms. They considered their own priorities and values and cast a vote for the first time.
Unfortunately, we are not always talking politics and social change. I am extremely concerned about the place that celebrity holds in our society. The media, and sometimes consumers, devote a lot of time and attention to the celebrity du jour. The media serves up a heaping bowl of Tiger Woods as the featured menu item and many go back for seconds and thirds…until it gets cold. Then, they start serving a dual entrée of Kim Kardashian and Reggie Bush. Until they break up…and the menu changes again.
Instead of talking about Tiger and the list of women, can we talk about what it takes to make a marriage strong? Isn’t that a healthier, more positive and more helpful discussion to have? Maybe women can discuss why they allow themselves to become involved with married men. Or how about men discussing why we cheat?
And as we discuss, let’s focus on positive and peaceful dialogue. Sometimes we spend so much time hurling words and tossing verbal jabs, that we never reach agreement or compromise. We just keep drawing lines in the sand, never finding at least a middle ground to stand upon.
“Small minds talk about people, average minds talk about events, great minds talk about ideas.” What’s on your mind?